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How to start writing memoir

If you've always wanted to try your hand at writing memoir, give our guide to getting started a go

Audience: Writers

Last updated: 22 May 2024

Everyone has a story to tell. From massive life events to small, quiet moments that might make someone else smile or sigh, you’re sure to have a whole treasure trove of material right there for the taking – so how do you get those memories and experiences down on the page? Discover advice for how to write a memoir, even if you've never tried before.

How to write memoir: a starter guide

Get to know the story you want to tell

Unlike fiction, memoir has a solid grounding in the real world and that means you have the chance to sit down and think hard about the event that inspired you.

Think about the size of your story

When you hear the word ‘memoir’ you might be thinking it only covers big, thick paperbacks or hardbacks, but that’s not the case. There are plenty of places you can share memoirs of a whole range of different lengths and sizes, so it’s up to you to work out how long your story needs to be.

If you’re planning on telling a big chunk of your life story, then a book-length manuscript might be just the ticket. If what you really want to do is write about a small humorous or heart-breaking incident, you’re probably better off thinking about something that’s only a few hundred or thousand words long.

Memoir essays give you the chance to explore a moment from your past in a way that’s quick and easy for other people to read. You’ll find some good examples on Electric Typewriter(this link will open in a new window).

Work out how much you want to share

Writing about things that have happened in your own life is sometimes also called ‘personal writing’ – and it’s not hard to see why! If you’re writing any sort of memoir, you are going to be revealing some things about yourself (and potentially your friends and family).

This means it’s worth taking the time to work out exactly how much you’re comfortable with sharing. This will be different for everyone: some writers are happy to bare all and others like to keep certain things back. Just be careful of accidentally stepping over your own boundaries.

Remember that even memoirs need a ‘story’

It can be tempting to think that all you need to do is get down exactly what happened, but just like any other kind of creative writing, there’s a lot of skill in working out how to tell a story. When memoir writing, put the focus on working out how to make your story interesting for your reader.

Focus on making your story interesting for your reader

You might add drama by foreshadowing disasters or keep the pace going by cutting down on description and focusing on snappy dialogue and observations. Whichever way you go, don’t forget that your memoir needs to be building to something – whether it’s a disaster, a joke or even a moment of personal discovery.    

Develop your own voice

Every person who writes, whether it’s fiction or fact, has their own unique style or ‘voice’. When you’re working on memoir, this voice is especially important because it’s likely to be the thing that really hooks a reader in to your story.

What kind of voice do you have? Imagine that you are writing to a good friend or someone you really care about and see how that changes the way you write. Are you naturally warm, gossipy, dramatic or conversational? Look for your own habits and strengths and find a way to work with them!

If you think you’re ready to start, dive on in and just remember: this is your story, all you need to do is find the best way to share it.