Reflections on Friendship

Reflections on Friendship

Friendship is one of the wonders of the world. No other relationship with a fellow being acknowledges the diversity of human experience.
It has undoubtedly shaped who I am; it has provided solace in times of need and uniquely offers a mirror to one’s own self, allowing us to see ourselves as others see us. Only friendship can reveal what we are as a person. But what is friendship? Is it based on mutual support? Or is it more profound?
Beginning at primary school, I remember meeting friends. These friendships (and I mean that word loosely) were encountered at a basic level; you liked someone, and they reciprocated. You clung to a friend you could talk to; it made you less anxious and afraid. The first day at school is daunting; any comfort coming your way, being appreciated and welcomed.
Throughout the school year you welcome friends; they play the same sports; are in the school choir; study an instrument and watch similar films. A bond arises; where friendships blossom and last a lifetime. While others, wither and die.
On leaving school, friendships can happen at University, in a workplace, or by chance encounter. When older and wiser, friendship fosters a deepening of relationships.
Philosophers of antiquity, such as Aristotle, have reflected as to the significance that friendship plays in the human psyche. Aristotle in particular, identified friendship as a type of shared respect, virtue and a commitment to the ‘Good’.
The highest form of friendship for Aristotle is an appreciation of whether one is virtuous and good. Friendships based on virtue are rare, as they require cultivation on one’s part. Is friendship a source of enjoyment; an insurance against ill will; or is it as philosophers have raised, something else, more tangible? Can a friendship based solely on enjoyment be genuine, or does true friendship ask for something more and moral education of the other person?
I think the balance lies between these perspectives, where personal friendship offers us happiness, support, and a rapport in everyday existence or in a type of friendship sought after by the Ancient Greeks, this prompts us to see the other person as a reflection of our own character and virtue.
Whatever the definition, friendship between fellow human beings must have at its heart love, respect and virtue.
In the words of Aristotle, friendship is: ‘to strive for the good, not just for ourselves, but for each other’.